What does it take for someone to have irreconcilable differences with their own children?
I quarrel a lot with my parents, but it's just quarrels. There's no meanness involved in it, but more like arguments which get loud. That happens, more so, because all of us (my brother included) have a habit of speaking our minds. Needless to say, 4 minds may not think alike on quite a few topics. Still, I doubt we ever will fight to the point, that we cannot stand each other's company. However in the past few days, I have seen 3 cases where the parents don't speak with their children. In two out of the three, I only know the parent, so I only know one side of it, but from what I know, they never would want to be in the same room as their child. Coincidentally, all three cases involve the choice of the spouse by the child. One of the cases, even involves the girl getting married a couple of years ago, is currently pregnant and her parents have not even announced the wedding to their relatives. In an Indian social scenario, that is even more dangerous.
Is it that parents, in their love for their child, cocoon them from the outside world, so much that they cannot figure out why their precious child would want to fly away to lead her own life?
1 comment:
Nahh, parents simply think they know whats best, and cannot fathom how a child that "came out of them" can have an independent mind of their own. Most parents also confuse the independent mind and choices with the kids doing things simply to spite them, and hence hate the kid for it. Its a simple matter of ego clashing :)
They have a hard time letting them fly because for them it feels like they want to fly not to spread their wings, but to leave them (the parents) and go.
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